tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892025152087310053.post3249137303810385164..comments2016-05-20T01:32:37.266-07:00Comments on This Part of the Journey: Why is it so hard to ask for support?Kim Cassidyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13620010317936317555noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892025152087310053.post-976494963862558172012-12-01T23:02:32.613-08:002012-12-01T23:02:32.613-08:00Hi Kralla
Yes, I think that we have to see and be...Hi Kralla<br /><br />Yes, I think that we have to see and be aware of the gift that we are giving to the other person when we are asking for support and it in no way diminishes, rather it can be very empowering!!<br /><br />Hope you get to have a realxing rest in the holidays!!<br /><br />KimKim Cassidyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13620010317936317555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892025152087310053.post-84493893599728530782012-11-30T11:15:26.147-08:002012-11-30T11:15:26.147-08:00Thank you Kim for reminding me of some of the less...Thank you Kim for reminding me of some of the lessons I have had to learn regarding this issue.<br /><br />I too experienced many challenges (they're less intense now than about 5 or so years ago) when even thinking of asking for help or support. For me it seems to stem from a feeling of being seen as helpless or hopeless.<br /><br />At the beginning of this week we had to finish marking exam scripts and submit the marks for compilation. I have a huge marking load, probably one of the biggest on our staff. Several teachers who had completed their marking offered to assist but I knew that they wouldn't be able to mark the exam scripts as well as it should be marked or rather, as well as I would mark them as they were not familiar with the course content! So, I declined their help and battled on. On completing my work, I felt really good at having pushed myself to meet the deadline!<br /><br />Even if my colleagues were familiar with the course content, I would still not have accepted their help because I would've felt guilty about accepting help when I knew that had I spent a little more time marking (and less time doing those 'other' things we choose to do rather than focus on doing the 'urgent' stuff), I may have completed my task earlier.<br /><br />I know my example is different to the one about your son. However, I too have had to learn to ask for help and support from family and friends and it wasn't an easy thing to do initially. Since we are taught to be independent and self-sufficient from an early age and then later taught to 'make do' with what we have, I used to see my asking for support as going against these teachings! And of course, they're not. I have discovered that the people who have kindly assisted me saw it as almost a a 'privilege' to help me out.<br />krallahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17182616631023494704noreply@blogger.com